Talking About Depression: Breaking the Taboo and Advocating for Mental Health 🗣️💪
A person diagnosed with major depressive disorder discusses how they communicate about their condition with others.
My Approach to Sharing my Condition
By Bianca Palmisano, as told to Hope Cristol
🌟 Introduction
Being disabled comes with its challenges, both physical and mental. As someone with a hypermobility spectrum disorder, I understand firsthand the struggles that come with chronic pain and limited mobility. But I also consider my major depressive disorder (MDD) as a disability, and I firmly believe in the importance of talking about it openly. Solidarity within the disability community is crucial for us to support each other and advocate for disability rights. 🌍
Depression at Work: No Need to Hide 😔
Depression should never be treated as something to hide, especially in the workplace. It is a legitimate disability and is protected by the Americans with Disabilities Act. This act grants individuals the right to request certain accommodations to ensure a conducive working environment. However, I do understand why some people may be hesitant to be as open about their mental health as I am. Let me share an experience where being open about my depression didn’t go as smoothly as I hoped. 😟
I once had a particularly demanding job that started triggering panic attacks due to tense work relationships. I decided to ask my employer if I could work from home two days a week to create a better space for myself away from those stressors. Unfortunately, proving my need for this accommodation was not easy. Despite my therapist providing a letter, it was not sufficient. I was required to obtain proof from a medical doctor, and without being on medication for my depression at that time, I had nowhere to turn. 📝✉️
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- The Path to Managing Depression: A Personal Journey
- Work and Depression: Finding Balance and Support
Ultimately, my request was denied, and a few weeks later, I was let go for unrelated reasons. It was a tough experience, but it highlighted the importance of finding a job that is a good fit and has a supportive team. Thankfully, I recently found my place as a forensic nurse, and I now have an understanding boss who values my wellbeing. When my boss asked me about working night shifts, I was honest about my limitations due to depression and chronic fatigue. To my surprise, my boss was understanding and accommodating. 💼💤
Trashing the Idea of “Taboo” 🗑️
When it comes to discussing depression, I’ve never thought of it as a disclosure or something to shy away from socially. My friends and I talk about our feelings, good and bad days, and my depression is a part of those conversations. Having friends who also have mental illness or disabilities provides an existing understanding and support system. For me, it has been essential in breaking down the stigma surrounding depression. 💬🌈
Social media has also been instrumental in normalizing conversations about depression. I want to help individuals whose lives fit into a traditional mold understand that depression is not abnormal. As someone who identifies as nonbinary and queer, I am fortunate to have the freedom to challenge societal expectations. But for those who may conform to those norms, it’s crucial for them to know that struggling with depression does not make them any less valuable or worthy. 📲🏳️🌈
In my role as a health educator and owner of Intimate Health Consulting, I advocate for discussing uncomfortable topics. Our organization trains healthcare professionals to handle sexual health issues, including those related to the LGBTQ+ community, sexual function problems, and sexual assault survivorship. I believe these discussions are necessary, even when they make people uncomfortable. Let’s trash the idea of “taboo” and make these conversations commonplace. 💪🗣️
Privilege, Responsibility, and Paying It Forward 🌟✨
I am constantly grateful for the community I have and the place I call home. It plays a significant role in giving me the strength and resilience to share my diagnosis and seek help when needed. Sometimes, it can be nerve-wracking to be vulnerable and open up about our mental health, but it’s important to remember that we all deserve tenderness and care. We can only receive that if we are open and willing to ask for help. 🤝❤️
While my privilege affords me certain opportunities, including being able to talk about my mental health, I recognize that others may face greater challenges due to their race, weight, or other marginalized identities. For communities of color, for example, the stakes may be higher when discussing mental illness openly. We must acknowledge these disparities and work towards a world where everyone feels safe and supported, regardless of their background. 👥✊
Ultimately, it’s not the labels that matter but rather ensuring that individuals receive the care they need and deserve. As a friend and a nurse, I believe in providing the support necessary for each person’s journey. Whether that means seeking professional help, exploring medications, or finding support structures outside of the traditional healthcare system—such as sports, religion, or friendships—we all deserve to live our best lives. Let’s break the stigma, one conversation at a time. 🌈✨
🤔 Q&A Section 🤔
Q: Can depression be seen as a disability?
A: Yes, depression can be considered a disability under the Americans with Disabilities Act. It is protected, and individuals have the right to request reasonable accommodations in the workplace.
Q: What are some signs that a workplace might not be supportive of mental health?
A: Signs of an unsupportive workplace regarding mental health can include management not validating or dismissing employees’ mental health concerns, a lack of flexible accommodations, or an overall stigma surrounding mental health discussions.
Q: How can individuals be allies to marginalized communities struggling with mental health?
A: Being an ally involves actively listening, educating yourself about the experiences of marginalized communities, and creating inclusive spaces that allow individuals to speak openly about their mental health. Check in on friends and colleagues, and advocate for policies and resources that support mental well-being.
Q: What are some alternative methods for managing depression besides traditional medical treatment?
A: Besides traditional medical treatment, alternative methods for managing depression can include therapy, exercise, meditation and mindfulness practices, engaging in creative outlets, and building strong support networks. It’s essential to find what works best for you and seek guidance from healthcare professionals when needed.
Q: Why is it important to break the silence surrounding depression?
A: Breaking the silence around depression reduces stigma, fosters understanding, and encourages individuals to seek help without fear of judgment. Open conversations can lead to increased awareness, empathy, and the creation of safe spaces for those struggling with mental health.
📚 References
- Bianca Palmisano, MSN, RN, Washington, D.C.
- The Ehlers-Danlos Society: “What is HSD?”
- National Institute of Mental Health: “Depression.”
Remember, talking about depression and mental health is not being weak; it’s being brave. Your voice matters, and your story can inspire others. Let’s continue to share, support, and break the stigma together. 💙🌸
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